Mar/10

I’m Such a Social Retard

2 Comments · Posted by Steve in Advice

Hi folks,

Today I was browsing a social anxiety support forum and came across the following post:

“I’m a 27 year old bloke living in a very sunny country (although it’s been raining heavily these past couple of days).

Anway, today I discovered that I officially have no friends at all…Sad really. I’ve been a loner since junior high. Sure I had a few buddies here and there during that time but they all come and go like the wind.

So I was total loner until 2004 when I met a girl via an online chat room. And then we met face-to-face, she became my girlfriend and we both had a wonderful time together. She also became my best friend (heck she was my only friend!). She was the only person I could hang out with, I can talk to her about anything. She made me feel free!

Long story short- she dumped me last month (the 2nd time), and now she’s totally ignored me…We can’t even be friends anymore…Man, I feel so gutted right now. Really heartbroken.

This is the point where I wish I had a few close buddies I can hang out with and get some support like in that movie Brooklyn Rules. Wish I have that kind of friends, very close knit and all.

Like most folks here, I also have difficult time making friends. I’m such a social retard. I have no idea how to be around people. Very retarded at it.

Anyway, sorry for yammering too much as I really needed an outlet to let this out. I must say I feel a bit better now.

Regards,

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P.s – Sorry for any grammatical errors and whatnot. English is not my first language. Heck, frankly I can’t even speak my first language properly. See, this is what happens when you don’t talk to people very often…”

What we have here is a pretty simple sob story about how life with SA isn’t going well for this one particular person. Notice there is something very interesting about 3/4 of the way through the post. The person comes out with “I’m such a social retard”.

For this person being a social retard is the way they look at their life. Everything else in their post is a result of this belief that they have about themselves, and this belief has become a filter that they use to look at their life. It’s no wonder that what comes next feels horrible.

What this person needs to do is change the belief of “I’m a social retard” and then they will notice all the other crap disappearing.

If you have social anxiety and would like some advice on how to change please feel free to email me.

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