Social Anxiety Treatment Blog

Would it help me to say that change is hard if not impossible? That the life of a person who has phobias, social anxiety, problems with weight or smoking or habitual bad habits is doomed to failure? Would it help me to say that you should stay stuck inside a horrible reality where you don’t even have a chance of reaching your life’s potential? Amazingly the answer to this question when applied to my advice being accepted by people in general is a definite YES!

But this is simply not advice I’m willing to give. I think it’s retarded.

Try as I might I simply cannot understand the mindset. I have been there after all. I’ve had phobias that ruined my life. I’ve been out in public and the only thing that could make me happy would be to be hiding away in some corner as far away from everyone as I could possibly get. I spent a good 3 years of my life having a panic attack every morning before school, seeing my whole existence coming crashing down around me. For a kid of 9 this is not a good place to be.

Though I went through all these things there is not a part of me today that wants any of that back, it was horrible. Everyday I wished there was a way to escape, to get more than I was getting, and to stop being so damn scared all the time. I would see other people going out and having loads of fun, yet when I tried I couldn’t do it.

I had to find an answer to fix my obvious problems. Did I have those problems because I deserved them? I didn’t think so. Perhaps it was genetic? That’s just laughable, show me a baby that is scared to cry when it poops itself, needs fed, or a hug from mummy and then I might consider otherwise. But such a baby doesn’t exist!

This tells me something…

PROBLEMS IN LIFE ARE LEARNED, in this case phobias, panic attacks, and social anxiety (babies have not had a chance to do this yet).

They are created due to a circumstance or set of circumstances that create a learned pattern of behaviour inside the brain. In order to create these learnings there first of all must be 2 things present inside of the event, 1. Novelty, 2. A High Emotional State. These 2 things then go on to cause a chemical reaction in the brain which results in a strong emotional connection to the primal part of the brain, which is involved with Fight, Flight, Food and Fornication. If you have an unbalanced connection such as this (i.e. there is no connection to the outer part of the brain, the cerebral cortex, so your brain has no access to new ideas) it will start creating some real problems for you. This unbalanced connection is a belief that you hold to be true about yourself, for example "I’m Weak" your mind will then go through your entire life and filter out everything that doesn’t agree with this.

What most people seem to want to do, is to take these problems and make them a part of who they are. For whatever reason they don’t seem to realise that problems are only temporary if you deal with them in the right way.

The right way to deal with these kinds of problems is NOT with drugs (prescribed or otherwise), it is NOT with alcohol, and it is NOT with NLP, or any of the other myriad of techniques out there that promise so much, charge so much, and deliver NOTHING. Indeed drugs and alcohol especially will create a whole other host of problems for you to deal with.

And so there is a dilema and it is no easy one to figure out. How do you get someone to understand that problems are only temporary, that the best place for them to be is not in a doctor’s surgery, a psycotherapists office, or down at the local off license.

The hardest part of change is deciding to do it, to make your life and yourself better. So many will never make that decision, so many will be forever wondering why their lives suck. That is their decision, and a bad one at that.

For those that think otherwise, for those that want to change, for those that have had enough of being stuck, of living a sucky life, of being depressed and angry, never able to form meaningful relationships, do the things they really want to do, or just live a happy life I will tell you how I got out.

Just over 5 years ago I discovered the 3D Mind process. It is a brand new revolutionary change process which is going to rip to shreds the current self help industry and destroy so much of the bad advice out there. For a description of the 3D Mind you can go here: 3D Mind

I advise you to go look now. It is the key to solving those problems in your mind you wish you never had. It’s the key to a happier more fulfilling life than you ever realised you could have. It’s the key to not being stuck anymore….